Family Constellations work is all about relationships. Any kind of relationships. For example, your relationship with your work, your family members, your friends, your boss, your health, your life, your success, your money – your anything. Read More
When people suffer from certain conditions and situations, related to their health, relationships, profession, business, repetitive circumstances and so on, this does not mean these are their own issues.
The issues people suffer from are often not their own issues.
Many of the issues are inherited from the systems, where people belong. For example, we belong to our family (or family system). This is one of the systems, that influences us a lot. So, for example, very often, when someone is ill, this is not his personal illness; the illness is often coming from his family system. This, in family constellations, is called a systemic entanglement. Family Constellations or Family & Systemic Constellations is the way of working with such systemic entanglements. Read More
Success has a different meaning to all of us. For some this is a good health, for some – a happy relationship with parents, siblings, spouses, partners, children, or friends. Some people consider themselves successful if they are doing well professionally; some of us want to have inner peace or inner happiness, and there is more. These are a few examples of what people usually answer to the question “What does success mean to you?”
So, the question now is, why many of us cannot achieve what they want, their success? Because, in order to be successful in this life, Read More
Family Constellations is a very deep, very profound soul work. The name is obsolete by now, but this is how people know it. It is fairly new to Canada. The work is specific to the client’s request. The work is usually being conducted in groups. There is the facilitator, the client and the group of people, who participate as helpers by representing different energies and aspects related to the client’s request.
The work the way it is, very practical, is brought to us by Bert Hellinger. Hellinger has found that there are fundamental mechanisms and laws in this 3-d world that affect our life here. He has found the reasons why people get ill, weak, unsuccessful in their personal, professional, business, and everyday life. Some people, for example, get into repetitive situations (like traumas, car accidents), and they do not understand why. This might repeat through the family generations.
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Do you know where your strength is? It is behind your weakness.
And where your love, your courage and your trust is? It is behind your fears.
As Bert Hellinger says:
“The most valuable treasures are guarded by the fiercest dragon. To reach these treasures, you need to approach the dragon and kiss it.” (Bert Hellinger. The Orders of Help.)
-What was…?
-Who was…?
-What did you…?
-More…?
-And even more…?
Does this look familiar? Read More
Some Fun Quotes
From Bert Hellinger’s Book “The Orders of Love”
“Some helpers remind on a scarab bug, believing that with its legs it rotates the world.”
“If someone offers you help, be careful” by Vincent de Paul
This is my personal experience, how I see it and deal with it, I’d like to share it:
-Vital energies get blocked.
When some trauma situation occurs in a family (like death, illness or anything else) it blocks vital energies.
-Trauma is finite.
What happened, had happened. It is done. Read More
If a facilitator takes sides he cannot help.
“When a client says: “I was raped” or “I am a victim of abuse”, something happens inside us. We take sides. That is why we cannot help. If I move with the Spirit-Mind, I see the perpetrators as beings in the same level as the victims. I see them as human beings who have different entanglements, but the same right to belong. When I give all of them a place in my heart, I am becoming in tune with the Spirit Mind and receive the understanding and strength that move forward.” Bert Hellinger
(From the Level 1 Hellinger Institute Toronto, Including the Excluded)
We feel sorry for the victims, we want to help them, we unite with them, we hate the perpetrators and this attitude makes us feel right and comfortable. But this way we are actually part of a problem.
Being part of a solution requires courage, is often scary, and does not feel right. A lot of courage is required to see the perpetrators, to recognize their presence in the family, and to recognize their presence in us (?! – this is definitely “no way”, because they are “bad” and we are “good”, of course, this is obvious).
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