16 Sep

Person & Family – Balance

Family Constellations Toronto Elena Nesterenko

Strong System – Weak Members

For the beginning let’s look at systems in general. I am talking about systems formed by people, about social formations.
And here are the two simple observations:

Strong System – Weak Members

The stronger the system is the weaker the people are in it.
Stronger systems offer more support to its members so the members rely on this support more. The pay for it is losing personal power as for the good life, health and so on people rely on the system.

Weak System – The Strongest Survive

The weaker the system is the more its members have to rely on their own qualities. So, only the strongest survive. There is much less comfort and more challenge but there are more opportunities for the personal growth. Читать далее

11 Jan

Успех

Family Constellations in Toronton Area Vaughan Elena Nesterenko

“All people are successful. The question is “in what?”. Lots of people are successful in sending their vital energy to the past, which keeps them disconnected from their life. If you want to be successful in your life today you need to send your energy towards life.”

“Your roots and your past are the source of energy and wisdom for you.” Читать далее

11 Jan

Когда Состояние Невыносимо

Family Constellations Toronto Elena Nesterenko

If your sate is too much for you, if you feel too intense, or too emotional, or too tired, this means you are out of balance. What does it mean? From many family constellations sessions it often shows that when people are out of balance, it means they are holding a wrong place in their family system. Usually they are connected to the past. Often they try to parent their mother or their father as if their parents were children. Also it happens, they are connected to some past trauma in their family, and not simply connected, but connected to just one side of it.

More about it during the family constellations workshops:
Family Constellations Workshops Schedule
Elena Nesterenko – Family Constellations in Toronto

11 Jan

Правильная Ответственность

Family Constellations in Toronto

Guilt, shame, and taking someone’s responsibility makes you ill. Taking your own responsibility makes you strong and is very healing for your dignity.

This is all from the Family Constellation work and from Hellinger’s books.

Elena Nesterenko – Family Constellations Facilitator
Family Constellations in Toronto

11 Jan

У Вас Есть Всё, Что нужно. Проблема как Благословение. Питающий Источник.

Family Constellations in Toronton Area Vaughan Elena Nesterenko

Whatever situation you face in your life tells you a lot about yourself.
It actually gives you a feedback on your current state.
People who are into some spiritual activity say that things happen not to you but for you. They also say we live in the attraction based universe. I agree. And I’d like to invite you now not only to know this but to live through this.

We are Equipped

Our bodies are being constantly attacked by some bacteria. In our body, our little universe, there is happening a constant fight to protect us against the enemies. And if you only think of how many harmful enemies in a form of bacteria we have, it might feel depressing. Читать далее

11 Jan

Убеждения и Осознаность

Family Constellations - Educationa and Practical Workshop - Stuckness - by Elena Nesterenko in Totno Area

We carry many very well established beliefs built out of certain past circumstances. They come to us from our background: our country, our religion, our family. We obey certain beliefs on our cellular level if not even deeper. The important thing here is that these beliefs get built into our beings so deeply, so we do not see the difference anymore: where are us and where are the beliefs that might be already obsolete and even damaging to us. Читать далее

11 Jan

Большинство Терпят Неудачу Именно Здесь

Family Constellations Toronto

Parents

Parents. This is where most of people get stuck. As per Bert Hellinger, it’s not even both parents, it is usually just the mother. He says that the root of most of the problems lies in relationship with the mother, in our attitude towards her.
Of course, there are people burdened with some family past trauma, but most of cases are not like that. Most of people are stuck in the relationship with the mother or/and the father.
For people to become successful as parents it is enough to pass life. This is it. The rest (taking care of a child, feeding, buying cloth, educating and so on) is optional. Does it sound harsh? May be. Читать далее

25 Jan

Ожидания и Упущенные Возможности

Family Constellations in Vaughan by Elena Nesterenko

Один раввин очень гордился своей верой в Бога. То и дело он повторял: «Я верую в Господа».
И вот однажды случилось наводнение. Все люди спасаются, как могут. Только раввин спокоен: «Я верую в Господа. Он спасёт меня.»
Вода продолжала прибывать. К дому подплыла лодка, и люди, сидящие в ней, говорят: «Здесь есть ещё одно место, поехали с нами, иначе утонешь». Раввин ответил: «Нет, я верую в Господа, он спасёт меня». Читать далее

25 Jan

Ты Знаешь, Кто Ты на Самом Деле? Свои Способности?

Family Constellations Bert Hellinger's Method

Есть старая история о том, как осиротевший тигренок растёт в стаде овец. Он вырастает как овца, не осознавая, что тигр. В один прекрасный день его видит старый тигр. Старый тигр отгоняет молодого от стада и преследует его до озера, где тот может увидеть своё отражение в воде. Молодой тигр видит сходство между собой и старым тигром и, наконец, понимает, что он не овца (Из рассказов Ошо).

Когда человек не живёт своей жизнью, а подражает другим (часто членам своей семьи), когда он копирует их поведение, жизни, судьбы, он не может узнать, кем является на самом деле. Читать далее